Approval Seeking
MisconceptionApproval seeking is a fundamental misconception that manifests both physically and psychologically, where people lean forward desperately trying to get validation from others rather than deserving what they want. This pattern extends from dating interactions to work environments, where most people have learned to do work for approval rather than create massive value, representing the lowest level of value creation.
About Approval Seeking
Approval seeking is a fundamental misconception that manifests both physically and psychologically, where people lean forward desperately trying to get validation from others rather than deserving what they want. This pattern extends from dating interactions to work environments, where most people have learned to do work for approval rather than create massive value, representing the lowest level of value creation.
Real-world examples include observing insecure men on dates who make excuses and change their posture based on reactions, contrasted with Scott McKay who transformed his dating life by spending four years becoming the kind of man who deserves quality relationships.
“Most of us have learned how to do work and to turn in papers at s”
— Eben Paganon Explaining how approval seeking extends to work environments and value creation
Perspective
“Work hard to get approval and validation from others”
Focus on deserving what you want by creating massive value and using 'approval keeping' body language
Evidence 4
Lean back physically and psychologically - don't lean forward seeking approval like insecure men do on dates
Fat Joe's song 'Lean Back' referenced as reinforcement tool, with observation of men leaning forward while women lean ba
From: 5 Most useful Tips for Body Language 2020 Part 1 | David DeAngelo ...at 76:45Use 'approval keeping' body language instead of approval giving or seeking - crossed arms, steady gaze, not changing posture based on others' reactions
Specific examples like not making excuses when she drops her fork, saying 'oh my god' instead of 'that's okay' to mainta
From: 5 Most useful Tips for Body Language 2020 Part 1 | David DeAngelo ...at 84:01The core principle of dating success is learning to 'deserve what you want' - taking active steps to become the kind of man who attracts the quality of woman he desires
Scott McKay transformed his dating life after divorce by spending four years actively learning and improving himself, ev
From: Episode 200--The Mountain Top--Interviews With Dating Gurusat 8:30Most people have learned to do work for approval rather than create massive value, which is the lowest level of value creation
Eben explains 'Most of us have learned how to do work and to turn in papers at school and to try to get a pat on the hea
From: Mindsets Strategies For Turning Your Talent Into Incomeat 5:54Evidence
Real-world examples include observing insecure men on dates who make excuses and change their posture based on reactions, contrasted with Scott McKay who transformed his dating life by spending four years becoming the kind of man who deserves quality relationships.
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5 Most useful Tips for Body Language 2020 Part 1 | David DeAngelo ...
Mindsets Strategies For Turning Your Talent Into Income
Episode 200--The Mountain Top--Interviews With Dating Gurus