Coaching Techniques

Five-star coaching sessions must accomplish five specific things: presence, processing, insight, commitment, and action to create transformation on multiple levels

Pagan states that when done right, coaching clients leave saying 'I got a lot of value from that on a gut level, intuiti

Mindfulness in coaching means filling the mind with experience rather than thoughts - creating a mind full of presence instead of abstract distractions

Pagan defines mindfulness as 'mind emptiness or really what it is is to fill the mind with experience rather than with t

Processing builds rapport, connection, and trust when coaching clients feel heard during the session

Pagan explains 'when we process and we're heard it builds Rapport it builds connection it builds trust'

Self-generated insights create more lasting change than being told what to do - guide clients to their own realizations

Pagan teaches 'there are two ways to get a person to do something or to change one is to tell them you need to do this t

Use the 'achieve avoid act' framework to help clients get clear on what they want to achieve, what they want to avoid, and their next action step

Pagan specifically mentions 'achieve avoid act helping them to get clearer about what they want to achieve what they wan

Verbal commitments are crucial - guide clients to their action step then ask 'will you do it' and have them commit out loud

Pagan emphasizes 'you can ask them will you do it and have them make a commitment that they will do it and that commitme

Reward action-taking regardless of results - acknowledge implementation efforts rather than just successful outcomes

Pagan demonstrates this principle: 'if someone says that they implemented and they got a new client for $2,500 I say gre

Focus coaching praise on what clients can control - their implementation and action-taking rather than external results

Pagan explains the philosophy: 'in the world we we can't really control what other people do you know we can just contro

Real relationship advice should focus on authenticity over scripted performance tactics

Eben criticizes the evolution of pickup artistry where 'guys teaching other guys how to walk up to a woman and say somet

Compassion is proactive empathy that involves both understanding another person's feelings and experiencing those emotions yourself

Eben Pagan defines compassion as 'not only feeling the pain but wanting to... I want to know how you feel I want you to