“The Achieve-Avoid-Act framework has three steps: First, identify what they want to achieve (vision, goals, desires). Second, identify what they want to avoid (nightmares, fears, problems). Third, determine their next action step. This aligns with their biggest motivators before asking for challenging action.”
About Triadding
Triadding is a networking framework that involves connecting two people together with yourself as the third person, creating three-person relationships rather than traditional two-person connections. This approach creates much stronger, more stable relationships because the third person takes responsibility for managing and smoothing over conflicts between the other two people.
Research by Dave Logan, co-author of New York Times bestseller Tribal Leadership, shows that triadic connections are stronger than dyadic ones, and Logan discovered that creating six stable triads triggers exponential community growth and power.
Misconception
“Networking is about making one-on-one connections between two people”
The most powerful networking happens through triads where you connect two people with yourself as the stabilizing third person
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- How-To
How to Build Powerful Networks Through Triadding -- Create strong three-person relationships that accelerate business success
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Achieve-Avoid-Act Framework — Align With Motivators Before Asking Action
The Achieve-Avoid-Act framework has three steps: First, identify what they want to achieve (vision, goals, desires). Second, identify what they want to avoid (nightmares, fears, problems). Third, determine their next action step. This aligns with their biggest motivators before asking for challenging action.
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The Third Person Who Holds Relationships Together
Three-person relationships are stronger because the third person takes responsibility for the relationship between the other two and helps smooth over conflicts. Without a third person to mediate, two-person relationships are susceptible to hurt feelings and misunderstandings that can break the connection.
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Triadding as the Three-Person Relationship Structure
Triadding is connecting two people together with yourself as the third person in the relationship. This creates much stronger, more stable relationships than two-person connections because the third person takes responsibility for maintaining the relationship and smoothing over conflicts.
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Six Stable Triads and the Magic of Community Growth
You need six stable triads to create a powerful network. According to research, when you create six triads where you've introduced two people to each other and maintain the third position in those relationships, something magical happens and your community starts growing exponentially.
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Build a Mastermind of Five to Ten Ahead-of-You Entrepreneurs
Build a tight social group of 5-10 successful entrepreneurs who are a few years ahead of where you want to be. Connect them to each other through triads and create a mastermind group. This provides more leverage for success than knowledge, training, or other development methods.
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Letting Others Feel Important Builds Stronger Relationships
Letting others be the smart one and important one in relationships is counterintuitive but effective. Humans naturally want to talk about themselves and their accomplishments, but successful relationship building comes from making the other person feel important and valued.
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Handling Relationship Conflict Without Ego Battles
Listen to their emotions without getting into ego battles. Avoid making them wrong, facilitate their experience, and find commonality to lead the relationship back to a safe space. Remember that relationships are delicate even though individuals are resilient.
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Connect People on Weird Uncommon Shared Interests
Connect people on something unusual or weird they have in common, not obvious connections. Look for shared interests, hobbies, or experiences that are specific and unique to create stronger bonds between the people you're introducing.
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Write Conversationally — Natural Language Builds Connection
Write the way you speak conversationally, not in grammatically perfect 'literary mode.' Natural language feels personal and builds connection, while overly correct writing feels stilted and impersonal.
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Daily Creativity Practice — Connect Any Two Objects
Daily practice connecting any two different objects by building mental bridges, finding third elements that integrate them, or discovering unexpected relationships between unrelated items.
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Live Teachers Lose the Audience When They Switch to Third Person
Most live teachers make the mistake of switching to third person and speaking 'at' their audience rather than 'to' them, becoming 'tellers' instead of teachers
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Compare Three-Year Visions to Find Integrated Action Steps
Compare your three-year visions for health, relationships, and success by analyzing both similarities and differences to discover integrated action steps
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Connect Health Relationship and Success Visions for Integration
Connect your health, relationship, and success visions through three combinations to discover integration points beyond individual goals
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Triadding Creates Stronger Relationships Than Two-Way
Triadding - connecting two people with yourself as the third leg - creates much stronger relationships than two-person connections
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Why Entrepreneurial Peer Groups Outperform Training
Building a social group of successful entrepreneurs provides more leverage than knowledge, training, or other development methods
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Closest Five People Shape Your Thoughts and Behavior
Your social group of 5-10 closest people is the most powerful influence on your thoughts, behavior, emotions, and psychology
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Third Person in a Triad Smooths Conflicts
The third person in a triad takes responsibility for the relationship between the other two and helps smooth over conflicts
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50 Minutes Is the Ideal Time to Focus on One Thing
You are approximately the average of the five people closest to you in health, income, self-esteem, and consciousness
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Leaders as Connectors Who Build Social Networks
Leaders function as connectors who build social networks to increase their influence and ability to get things done
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Avoiding Ego Battles During Interpersonal Conflict
In conflict, avoid ego battles and facilitate the other person's experience rather than making them wrong
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Six Stable Triads Trigger Community Growth
Creating six stable triads triggers magic - your community starts growing and becoming very powerful
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Connect People Through Unusual Common Ground
Connect people on something unusual or weird they have in common, not obvious connections
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Find People in Emotionally Charged Desperate Situations
Look for people in emotionally charged, desperate situations who think they know what they need but can't figure out how to get there. Every person has secret questions around money, relationships, health, or career that they'd pay anything to answer but don't want anyone to know they can't solve.
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Three Mega-Niches Sell 5-20x More Than Any Other Category
The three mega-niches are money/business/finance, health/fitness, and dating/relationships. These sell 5-20 times more than other niches because they address fundamental human needs from Maslow's hierarchy.
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Individuals Are Resilient But Relationships Are Fragile
Individual humans are very resilient. We can take a lot. Relationships, in other words, the relationship between two or more people are very delicate and they're not very resilient.
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You Are the Average of Your Five Closest People
if you take the five people that are closest to you in your life and you average them out, you'll find that you're about the average of those five people closest to you
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Six Stable Triads Trigger Exponential Community Growth
when you get six stable triads in your life, something magic happens and your community starts to grow and become very, very powerful
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The Leader's Role Is Connecting People
Another important function of the leader, as far as I'm concerned, is connecting people.