Eben Pagan teaches relationship-based marketing through three core models: stair-step marketing that breaks big commitments into small steps, education marketing that positions you as a trusted advisor, and customer lifecycle marketing that meets prospects earlier in their journey. This approach builds long-term customer relationships rather than pursuing one-time transactions.
Relationship Based Marketing
How to Implement Relationship-Based Marketing -- A step-by-step approach to building long-term customer relationships through education and gradual commitment building
Educator Role Builds Long-Term Customer Relationships
Taking on the educator role creates the foundation for long-term communication and positions you as someone customers like, trust, and admire
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Meet Prospects Upstream Before They Know They Need You
Meet prospects far upstream in their journey - before they even know they'll become your customer - to build relationships and establish expertise early
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Education Marketing Establishes You as the Trusted Advisor
Education marketing positions you as a trusted advisor by teaching prospects what they don't know they don't know - the right questions to ask, expensive mistakes to avoid, and how to make good decisions
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Influence the Entire Category Perception Not Just One Purchase
You can influence customers' entire perception of your marketplace and product category, not just individual buying decisions
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Start Marketing 30 to 365 Days Upstream of the Sale
Start marketing much earlier than you think - find people who are 30 days, 90 days, 6 months, or even a year away from being ready to buy. Meet them so far upstream that they don't even know they'll eventually become your customer.
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How to Implement Relationship-Based Marketing -- A step-by-step approach to building long-term customer relationships through education and gradual commitment building
Stair-Step Marketing Breaks Big Commitments into Small Steps
Use stair-step marketing to break big commitments into small, manageable steps. Start with tiny commitments like clicking a link or watching a video, then gradually build up to larger commitments like joining your email list, then purchasing low-cost products, before asking for major purchases.
Shape How Customers Think About Your Entire Industry
By meeting customers early in their journey and educating them throughout, you can shape how they think about your entire marketplace and product category, not just individual buying decisions. This positions you to influence their entire perspective on your industry.
Teach What Prospects Don't Know They Don't Know
Focus on education rather than selling. Teach prospects what they don't know they don't know - the right questions to ask, expensive mistakes to avoid, and how to make good decisions. This positions you as a trusted advisor rather than just another vendor.
Transaction vs Relationship Marketing — How Your Mindset Changes Everything
Traditional sales focuses on immediate transactions, while relationship marketing assumes long-term engagement. This changes your communication tone, what you're willing to invest upfront, and how long you'll nurture prospects before expecting a purchase.
Customer Lifecycle Marketing Meets Buyers at Any Stage
Use customer lifecycle marketing by recognizing that people go through predictable stages. Create a process that customers can join at any stage of their journey, making it feel personal and valuable to each person regardless of where they start.
Start Marketing 30 to 365 Days Upstream of the Sale
Start marketing much earlier than you think - find people who are 30 days, 90 days, 6 months, or even a year away from being ready to buy. Meet them so far upstream that they don't even know they'll eventually become your customer.
The Stair-Step Sequence from Ad Click to First Purchase
A typical stair-step sequence progresses through clicking ads, visiting websites, opting into email lists, watching free videos, reading newsletters, returning to the site multiple times, then purchasing entry-level products
Education Marketing Establishes You as the Trusted Advisor
Education marketing positions you as a trusted advisor by teaching prospects what they don't know they don't know - the right questions to ask, expensive mistakes to avoid, and how to make good decisions
Stair-Step Marketing Leverages Commitment and Consistency Psychology
Stair-step marketing breaks big commitments into small, manageable steps that gradually lead customers toward larger purchases through the psychology of commitment and consistency
Customer Lifecycle Marketing Meets People Where They Are
Customer lifecycle marketing recognizes that people go through predictable stages and allows customers to join your process at any stage while still feeling personally valued
Long-Term Relationship Mindset Changes Everything in Marketing
Approaching marketing as a long-term relationship changes your communication tone, upfront investment willingness, and patience before expecting purchases
Meet Prospects Upstream Before They Know They Need You
Meet prospects far upstream in their journey - before they even know they'll become your customer - to build relationships and establish expertise early
Educator Role Builds Long-Term Customer Relationships
Taking on the educator role creates the foundation for long-term communication and positions you as someone customers like, trust, and admire
Influence the Entire Category Perception Not Just One Purchase
You can influence customers' entire perception of your marketplace and product category, not just individual buying decisions
Always Treat the Customer Relationship as Long Term
This is going to be a long term relationship. So always remember to approach this relationship with your customer in a way that assumes that it's going to be long term.
Marketing as a Multi-Step Multiplayer Game
Let's make marketing into a fun, multi step, multi player game. Not something boring and kind of hard and lame.
Break Big Commitments Into Bite-Sized Steps
We're breaking up big commitments into small steps. Small bite sized steps that are easy to make.
Customers Don't Know What They Don't Know
They literally don't know what they don't know.
Concepts
Questions
Canonical Teachings
Eben introduces stair-step marketing based on Robert Cialdini's research on commitment and consistency. Rather than asking for big commitments upfront, breaking requests into small steps dramatically increases acceptance rates, as demonstrated through bone marrow donation studies.
Drawing from Jay Abraham's work, Eben explains how prospects literally don't know what they don't know. By taking the educator role and teaching the right questions to ask and mistakes to avoid, you position yourself as a trusted advisor rather than just another vendor.
Customer lifecycle marketing recognizes that people go through predictable stages and allows you to create processes that feel personal regardless of where customers enter. The key is finding prospects much earlier - sometimes years before they're ready to buy.
Eben emphasizes that assuming long-term relationships changes everything about your approach - from communication tone to upfront investment. This mindset shift enables you to influence entire market perceptions, not just individual buying decisions.
Claim: “Marketing should target people ready to buy right now”
Reframe: Find people thinking about buying in 30-90 days, 6 months, or even a year out to build relationships before they start shopping
Claim: “Ask for the sale immediately when someone shows interest”
Reframe: Break big commitments into small steps that gradually build commitment and consistency over time
Claim: “Focus marketing on your product features and benefits”
Reframe: Take the role of educator teaching prospects what they don't know they don't know
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