Training Session2023-09-30

How to Reach NEW CLIENTS By Sharing What’s Most Valuable To You (Rapid Success)

Eben Pagan reveals his formula for rapid business success: learn a valuable skill, teach it to others, then combine multiple skills to create unique value. He demonstrates this by sharing his personal journey from broke hippie kid to multi-million dollar entrepreneur.

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Breakthroughs 2

  • Direct response marketing was the breakthrough that got Pagan out of poverty after traditional real estate marketing completely failed

    After making only $1800 his first year in real estate selling the lowest-priced home in Eugene Oregon's MLS, Pagan states: 'I remember learning about a new kind of marketing called direct response marketing and I started doing it and started getting lots of calls from clients and then I started working with other top real estate agents and teaching them'

  • Combining marketing skills with dating knowledge created Pagan's first major success with 'Double Your Dating' under pen name David D'Angelo

    Pagan explains the combination: 'I had learned about marketing and then I went and learned about dating and then I put them together and then that became my first real success...I wrote a book called double your dating and I put it online and it took off and it became very successful'

Teachings 8

  • When you learn something important, immediately teach it to force yourself to organize and simplify the knowledge into a teachable model

    Eben Pagan describes his personal process: 'I find an area of my life where I need to improve and then I go and I study it I create success for myself in that area and then I go and I help others whether it's helping my friends one-on-one whether it's coaching'

  • Teaching what you learn gets you to 'that Simplicity on the far side of complexity' where you build models you can think with and work with

    Pagan explains the cognitive benefit: 'what happens when you learn something and then you teach it is that you you get to that Simplicity on the far side of complexity you build a model that you you then have in your head that you can think with'

  • Combine multiple skill models to create unique superpower positioning that few others can replicate

    Pagan gives specific examples: 'if you learn about how to coach and you get good at coaching then you organize your coaching knowledge into a structure...then you go and learn marketing...well now you can put them together and now you can teach coaching to marketers and marketing to coaches'

  • Any two skills can be combined for unique positioning - even seemingly unrelated ones like cooking and productivity

    Pagan illustrates with concrete example: 'if you're a great chef you really know how to cook and you're really good at productivity right if you go and you organize that knowledge and you teach both of those things then you have two models you put together now you can be an organized productive chef'

  • This process of learning and teaching combined skills is how you develop and find your own unique genius

    Pagan states the ultimate goal: 'this is part of the process of developing and finding your own unique genius and creating value in a unique way in the world'

  • Become a 'success scientist' who researches and understands success patterns across health, relationships, business, and money

    Pagan advocates: 'we have to decide I'm going to be a student of success I'm going to be a scientist I'm going to research this and I'm going to understand this thing success better than anybody I'm going to understand what it takes to be successful in my health in my relationships in my business in my money'

  • All major thought leaders including Tony Robbins, Marie Forleo, and Brendon Burchard started as coaches - coaching is the doorway to bigger platforms

    Pagan reveals about industry leaders: 'I'm also fortunate enough to be old friends with many of the people in our world the you know the kind of ogs people like Marie forleo and Tony Robbins and Mary Morrissey and Brenda burchard...they all started out the same way...they all started out as coaches right coaching is the doorway'

  • The formula for accelerated success is 'tiern' - teaching in order to learn at a higher level, then connecting your knowledge and skills

    Pagan defines his methodology: 'the formula for Accelerated success okay for Accelerated growth and learning is teaching and learning...sometimes I combine those two words teach learn into the word tiern right it's teaching in order to learn at a higher level and then connecting your knowledge and your skills'

Perspectives 1

  • Learning dating and attraction revealed that conventional wisdom was completely wrong - what actually worked was being funny, teasing, and creating chemistry

    Pagan discovered: 'none of the things that I had thought or been taught or any of the conventional wisdom none of that stuff was true...what actually worked was being funny and teasing and having chemistry and like there's a whole different set of things'

Quotable Moments 6

  • when I learned something important I then teach it

    Eben Pagan
  • you get to that Simplicity on the far side of complexity

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  • now you've got like the superpower because you were one of the only people that can do that thing

    Eben Pagan
  • this is part of the process of developing and finding your own unique genius

    Eben Pagan
  • I'm going to be a student of success I'm going to be a scientist

    Eben Pagan
  • coaching is the doorway

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How to Create Unique Market Value by Combining Skills

Eben Pagan's methodology for developing unique genius and competitive advantage

  1. 1

    Learn a valuable skill

    Find an area of your life where you need to improve, study it, and create success for yourself in that area

  2. 2

    Teach what you learned

    Help others through coaching, courses, or training programs to force yourself to organize and simplify the knowledge

  3. 3

    Create simplified models

    Develop diagrams, action steps, or exercises that capture the essence of what you learned

  4. 4

    Learn a second skill

    Repeat the process with a different area of knowledge or expertise

  5. 5

    Combine the models

    Connect your different knowledge areas to create unique positioning that few others can replicate

  6. 6

    Teach the combination

    Share your unique combination to establish yourself as one of the only people who can do 'that thing'

Questions Answered

How do you create unique value in a crowded market

if you learn about how to coach and you get good at coaching then you organize your coaching knowledge into a structure that you teach others...then you go and learn marketing...well now you can put them together and now you can teach coaching to marketers and marketing to coaches

Eben Pagan2:06

Learn two different skills, teach both to simplify them into models, then combine them to create unique positioning that few others can replicate.

Why should you teach what you learn immediately

what happens when you learn something and then you teach it is that you you get to that Simplicity on the far side of complexity you build a model that you you then have in your head that you can think with

Eben Pagan1:43

Teaching forces you to organize and simplify knowledge into models you can think with, getting you to 'simplicity on the far side of complexity.'

How did Eben Pagan overcome his fear of cold calling

I remember learning about a new kind of marketing called direct response marketing and I started doing it and started getting lots of calls from clients

Eben Pagan10:24

He discovered direct response marketing as an alternative to cold calling, which attracted interested prospects instead of interrupting unwilling ones.

What is the tiern methodology for accelerated learning

the formula for Accelerated success okay for Accelerated growth and learning is teaching and learning...sometimes I combine those two words teach learn into the word tiern

Eben Pagan18:43

Tiern combines 'teaching' and 'learning' - it means teaching in order to learn at a higher level, then connecting your knowledge and skills.

How do all major thought leaders start their careers

they all started out the same way they may all be on these stages with you know thousands or millions of people but they all started out the same way they all started out as coaches right coaching is the doorway

Eben Pagan18:11

They all start as coaches first - coaching is the doorway to bigger platforms like stages, courses, and communities.

What was Eben Pagan's first major business success

I had learned about marketing and then I went and learned about dating and then I put them together and then that became my first real success

Eben Pagan13:31

Double Your Dating, written under pen name David D'Angelo, combining his marketing skills with dating knowledge he had learned and taught to friends.

Success Story: Eben Pagan

Before

Terrified of cold calling, couldn't get dates, living in poverty

Key Shift

Started learning and immediately teaching skills, combining multiple competencies

After

Confident coach working with top industry leaders, living by choice lifestyle

Outcome: Built successful company with amazing team, gets to help and teach people as primary work

Breakthrough: Learning direct response marketing instead of traditional methods, then combining marketing with dating knowledge to create 'Double Your Dating'

Summary

The Core Formula: Learn, Teach, Combine

Pagan introduces his fundamental methodology for creating unique market value. When you learn something important, immediately teach it to force simplification and organization. This creates mental models you can combine with other skills for unique positioning.

From Broke Dropout to Multi-Millionaire

Pagan shares his personal transformation story from poverty-stricken hippie kid who dropped out of school to successful entrepreneur. His breakthrough came from discovering direct response marketing and later combining marketing with dating knowledge to create his first major success.

Becoming a Success Scientist

The episode emphasizes taking on a research mindset toward success across all life areas. Pagan reveals that all major thought leaders started as coaches first, making coaching the doorway to bigger platforms and teaching opportunities.

The Path to Unique Genius

Pagan explains how combining multiple simplified skill models creates superpowers that few others possess. This process of continuous learning and teaching leads to developing your own unique genius and creating distinctive value in the marketplace.

How to Reach NEW CLIENTS By Sharing What’s Most Valuable To You (Rapid Success)
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Counterpoint

Claim:You need formal education and credentials to be successful in business

Reframe: Success comes from learning practical skills, teaching them, and combining multiple competencies regardless of educational background

Pagan dropped out of kindergarten twice, dropped out of high school at 16, dropped out of community college at 18, yet built a multi-million dollar business by learning and teaching skills like marketing and dating

Claim:Traditional marketing methods like cold calling and advertising are necessary for business success

Reframe: Direct response marketing that attracts interested prospects works better than interruption-based traditional methods

After failing completely with traditional real estate marketing approaches including cold calling (which made him physically sick), Pagan succeeded with direct response marketing that generated lots of client calls

Claim:Being a nice guy and trying to impress women with gifts and friendliness creates attraction

Reframe: Attraction is created through humor, teasing, and chemistry rather than conventional nice-guy behavior

Pagan discovered that 'none of the conventional wisdom' about dating worked and 'what actually worked was being funny and teasing and having chemistry' rather than 'be a really nice guy and be friendly' or 'try to impress a girl by buying her flowers'

Key Points 11

When you learn something important, immediately teach it to force yourself to organize and simplify the knowledge into a teachable model

0:33

Teaching what you learn gets you to 'that Simplicity on the far side of complexity' where you build models you can think with and work with

1:43

Combine multiple skill models to create unique superpower positioning that few others can replicate

2:06

Any two skills can be combined for unique positioning - even seemingly unrelated ones like cooking and productivity

3:08

This process of learning and teaching combined skills is how you develop and find your own unique genius

3:39

Direct response marketing was the breakthrough that got Pagan out of poverty after traditional real estate marketing completely failed

10:24

Learning dating and attraction revealed that conventional wisdom was completely wrong - what actually worked was being funny, teasing, and creating chemistry

12:28

Combining marketing skills with dating knowledge created Pagan's first major success with 'Double Your Dating' under pen name David D'Angelo

13:31

Become a 'success scientist' who researches and understands success patterns across health, relationships, business, and money

17:09

All major thought leaders including Tony Robbins, Marie Forleo, and Brendon Burchard started as coaches - coaching is the doorway to bigger platforms

18:11

The formula for accelerated success is 'tiern' - teaching in order to learn at a higher level, then connecting your knowledge and skills

18:43

Topics

Coaching Strategies

coaching techniquescoaching businesscoaching expertisecoaching skills

Business Frameworks

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Common Mistakes

traditional marketing failureconventional dating advicecold calling fear