5 Most useful Tips for Body Language 2020 Part 2 |David DeAngelo
This is actually David DeAngelo's body language training where he teaches specific body language techniques for attracting women. The episode includes demonstrations of posture, eye contact, composure, and physical positioning to signal confidence and create sexual attraction.
Teachings 8
Allow her to orient herself to you rather than following her body language
DeAngelo explains that most men constantly look to the woman to figure out how to behave, taking their cues for what to say and how to feel from how she's feeling and acting. He describes watching couples at dinner where the woman leads the interaction.
Your body language is a projection of your inner self-image and social status
DeAngelo uses the analogy of a projector and screen, explaining that your self-image, social status, beliefs, and knowledge of dating are all projected into your body language. He states that if you have a fantastic self-image and see yourself as high-status, you'll project body language that triggers attraction.
Maintain 100% composure at all times - don't let low status signals slip out
DeAngelo tells a story about two men in an elevator where within seconds he could determine their trustworthiness and confidence levels. One man in casual clothes but with strong posture and composure appeared successful, while another with poor grooming and nervous body language appeared incompetent.
Don't be the first to break eye contact - it signals dominance and confidence
DeAngelo explains that eye contact contains confidence, status, and dominance. He describes how two males making eye contact without looking away signals potential conflict, and how when a woman makes eye contact and a man immediately looks away, she instantly gains higher status.
Watch pupil dilation to gauge interest - wide pupils mean she's taking in visual information
DeAngelo references Muhammad Ali watching opponents' pupils contract before throwing punches. He explains that wide pupils mean she's trying to take in more visual information because she likes what she's seeing, while small pupils indicate she doesn't want to take in the information in front of her.
Use touch to signal playfulness - get into 'bratty little sister' mode
DeAngelo demonstrates pushing women toward bushes while walking, bumping with hips at bars, and squeezing knees. He explains these childish, playful touches create fun tension and break down barriers while maintaining a serious expression.
Lead physically - take her hand and lead rather than asking permission
DeAngelo instructs to take her hand and lead when walking out, pull her toward you when you want her closer, and physically move her where you want her during cuddling or dancing. He emphasizes not asking but simply leading physically.
Plant yourself and let her come to you rather than chasing her around
DeAngelo explains that if you start chasing a woman she'll usually run because she unconsciously feels pursued. Instead, maintain your position, expect her to come to you, and demonstrate this by saying 'come here' and walking to get cream and sugar - if she follows, 'it is on.'
Quotable Moments 4
“allow her to orient herself to you most men look to the woman in order to figure out how to behave”
— David DeAngelo“your body language can be roughly thought of as a projection imagine a projector and a projection screen”
— David DeAngelo“keep composed at all times the whole time don't let low status self-image self-consciousness insecurity slip out at all”
— David DeAngelo“I'm gonna make you do things you don't want to do and are really gonna like”
— Will from New York
How to Use Body Language to Signal Confidence and Attraction
A systematic approach to using body language that demonstrates high status and creates attraction
- 1
Maintain composure
Keep 100% composure at all times. Don't let low status signals like fidgeting, nervous habits, or tentative gestures slip out.
- 2
Control eye contact
Don't be the first to break eye contact. Hold her gaze confidently to signal dominance and status.
- 3
Position strategically
Plant yourself in position and let her orient to you. Don't chase or follow her body language.
- 4
Use playful touch
Incorporate playful, non-sexual touch like hip bumps or knee squeezes to build comfort and attraction.
- 5
Lead physically
Take her hand and lead rather than asking permission. Guide her through doors and position her where you want.
Questions Answered
How do I use eye contact to show confidence with women?
“don't be the one to break eye contact first why is that what's in what's in eye contact confidence status dominance”
— David DeAngelo▶ 10:09
Don't be the first to break eye contact, as this signals dominance and confidence. Eye contact contains status and power - when you break first, you give her higher status instantly.
What does pupil dilation mean when talking to women?
“if a woman is looking at you and her pupils are wide open she's trying to take in more information of the visual field she likes what she's seeing”
— David DeAngelo▶ 12:20
Wide pupils mean she's trying to take in more visual information because she likes what she's seeing. Small pupils indicate she doesn't want to take in the information in front of her.
How should I position my body when first meeting a woman?
“lean back good what else strong and confident check her out from head to toe”
— David DeAngelo▶ 33:28
Lean back, check her out from head to toe, and use the body language of 'I am being selective.' Plant yourself and let her come to you rather than chasing her around.
What body language mistakes turn women off?
“stop darting eyes stop fidgeting stop stumbling over words stop tentative gestures stop nervous habits”
— David DeAngelo▶ 51:09
Stop darting eyes, fidgeting, stumbling over words, tentative gestures, and nervous habits. Most importantly, don't look down at the floor like you're sad and depressed.
How do I use touch to build attraction?
“get into that you're my bratty little sister and I'm gonna mess with you kind of mode”
— David DeAngelo▶ 41:49
Use playful touch like bumping with your hip, squeezing her knee, or pushing her gently toward obstacles while walking. Get into 'bratty little sister' mode and maintain a serious expression while being playful.
Expert: Mystery
World-renowned pickup artist, magician and illusionist who has dated supermodels and been featured in Saturday Night Magazine and New York Times
Summary
Foundation: Body Language Positioning and Composure
DeAngelo establishes that most men follow women's body language cues instead of leading with their own presence. He teaches the importance of maintaining complete composure and using body language as a projection of inner confidence and status.
Eye Contact and Reading Interest Signals
The training covers advanced eye contact techniques including not breaking contact first and reading pupil dilation. DeAngelo explains how sustained eye contact signals dominance while pupil changes indicate genuine interest levels.
Physical Touch and Playful Interaction
DeAngelo demonstrates specific touch techniques from playful hip bumps to strategic positioning. The focus is on creating attraction through confident physical leadership rather than seeking permission or approval.
Advanced Positioning and Leading Strategies
The final section covers how to position yourself so women orient to you, including specific scenarios like coffee shops and bars. Mystery joins as a guest expert to teach pre-selection and the three-phase attraction system.
Counterpoint
Claim: “Men should follow women's body language and take cues from how she's feeling”
Reframe: Stay strong, keep your power, and let the woman follow your body language instead
DeAngelo observes that men who are best with women do exactly the opposite of following - they maintain their position and let women orient themselves to them, like his friend who wouldn't even turn when his girlfriend came to kiss him
Claim: “Work on fixing body language symptoms like fidgeting or poor posture”
Reframe: Address the inner game problems that cause poor body language projection
DeAngelo explains body language is like a projector - the image on screen had to exist inside the projector first. Your self-image, social status and beliefs are projected into your body language, so fix the source not just the symptoms
Claim: “Ask permission before touching or getting physical with women”
Reframe: Lead physically without asking - take her hand, guide her, and move her where you want
DeAngelo demonstrates that asking 'can I give you a hug' or seeking permission signals weakness, while confidently leading physically by taking her hand to guide her through doors or pulling her close shows strength and protection
Key Points 8
Allow her to orient herself to you rather than following her body language
Your body language is a projection of your inner self-image and social status
▶ 3:51Maintain 100% composure at all times - don't let low status signals slip out
▶ 5:25Don't be the first to break eye contact - it signals dominance and confidence
▶ 10:09Watch pupil dilation to gauge interest - wide pupils mean she's taking in visual information
▶ 12:20Use touch to signal playfulness - get into 'bratty little sister' mode
▶ 41:49Lead physically - take her hand and lead rather than asking permission
▶ 47:33Plant yourself and let her come to you rather than chasing her around
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