How do I overcome limiting beliefs about money and wealth?
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Eben's Answer
Here's what nobody tells you about money decisions: your emotions make them first, and your conscious mind shows up afterward to write the press release. Your mind doesn't control your emotions — your emotions control your mind, using it to get their needs met. After you make an unconscious spending decision, your conscious mind runs what neuroscientists call confabulation: it automatically generates logical-sounding reasons why that decision was necessary. We also have hardwired responses to social influence triggers — reciprocity, authority, scarcity — that fire automatically before we've had a single conscious thought. The path forward isn't to eliminate emotion from decisions; it's to learn to influence your own emotional states and design the conditions that trigger the behaviors you actually want.
Reframe
“Money beliefs aren't fixed — they're inherited patterns. Once you see them as learned rather than true, you can replace them with beliefs that serve your goals.”
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